Comments on: A Christmas message http://kentnerburn.com/archives/139 The Blog of Author Kent Nerburn Sun, 19 Sep 2010 18:43:10 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Takako Beatty http://kentnerburn.com/archives/139/comment-page-1#comment-74 Takako Beatty Thu, 18 Dec 2003 14:58:37 +0000 http://kentnerburn.com/?p=26#comment-74 Hi, Kent! "Miracle of giving" is one of my favorite part of the book. However I am confused a bit. I have considered of myself as a giver. I enjoy sharing things, time or anythig with my loved people, family and friends. As you said, I agreed that I can recognise the same type of people at any place. But I have little thought that I might be a taker, instead of giver. Because even though I treat people, giving or doing things for them, some of them are different. Then I feel like I should stop giving to them anymore. It means that I am still expecting something from them? If that is it, I am a taker? I have so many giver friends all over the place where I have lived. We still contact and meet once a while, although we live miles away. Rately, my situation is completely changed due to the marridge. I moved to US and am apart from family and all my good friends. My husband is a completely different from me. I did not mind at all to give him for my care and love. However, I feel a bit tired of doing it without any return. I was hoping that he could learn "miracle of giving" to feel happy to make someone happy with little thoughts by what I was doing to him. But it has not work. Of course, I can not change him and he will change when he realise to need of change. Anyway, my point was if I am not complete giver. Like you become a Santa to give the presents to unknown children, you don't expect anything return. You are happy to make them happy. That is the point, isn't it? If I want to be a complete giver, I should not care any return? By the way, happy christmas and new year. P.S Thank you very much for your personally response to my last comment. It also made me happy to hear from you. Takako Hi, Kent!

“Miracle of giving” is one of my favorite part of the book. However I am confused a bit. I have considered of myself as a giver. I enjoy sharing things, time or anythig with my loved people, family and friends. As you said, I agreed that I can recognise the same type of people at any place. But I have little thought that I might be a taker, instead of giver. Because even though I treat people, giving or doing things for them, some of them are different. Then I feel like I should stop giving to them anymore. It means that I am still expecting something from them? If that is it, I am a taker? I have so many giver friends all over the place where I have lived. We still contact and meet once a while, although we live miles away. Rately, my situation is completely changed due to the marridge. I moved to US and am apart from family and all my good friends. My husband is a completely different from me. I did not mind at all to give him for my care and love. However, I feel a bit tired of doing it without any return. I was hoping that he could learn “miracle of giving” to feel happy to make someone happy with little thoughts by what I was doing to him. But it has not work. Of course, I can not change him and he will change when he realise to need of change. Anyway, my point was if I am not complete giver. Like you become a Santa to give the presents to unknown children, you don’t expect anything return. You are happy to make them happy. That is the point, isn’t it? If I want to be a complete giver, I should not care any return?

By the way, happy christmas and new year.

P.S Thank you very much for your personally response to my last comment. It also made me happy to hear from you.

Takako

]]> By: Adrian Jobson http://kentnerburn.com/archives/139/comment-page-1#comment-73 Adrian Jobson Tue, 09 Dec 2003 17:48:43 +0000 http://kentnerburn.com/?p=26#comment-73 Every time I revisit your work, I am taken with its simplicity and grace - and that quality of something you are giving away. An incredibly public and yet paradoxically personal act. There is something for me in your reminder about not only the act of giving but the qualities we "wrap" the gift in. Mine is usually a wrapper called justification. So the real value is in our ability to give freely. THank you Kent Every time I revisit your work, I am taken with its simplicity and grace – and that quality of something you are giving away. An incredibly public and yet paradoxically personal act.

There is something for me in your reminder about not only the act of giving but the qualities we “wrap” the gift in. Mine is usually a wrapper called justification. So the real value is in our ability to give freely.

THank you Kent

]]> By: ute gould http://kentnerburn.com/archives/139/comment-page-1#comment-72 ute gould Tue, 09 Dec 2003 17:41:24 +0000 http://kentnerburn.com/?p=26#comment-72 HI KENT NERBUR YOUR letter was nice to read. IT was like and old christman I rembert from years a go. I believe we are free, within limit and yet there is an unseen hand, a guiding angel, that somehow, like a submerged propeller, drives us on.I like to say thank you for your letter KENT HI KENT NERBUR

YOUR letter was nice to read. IT was like and old christman I rembert from years a go. I believe we are free, within limit and yet there is an unseen hand, a guiding angel, that somehow, like a submerged propeller, drives us on.I like to say thank you for your letter KENT

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